Made in Chelsea style- Spencer Matthews

I caught up with the lovely Spencer Matthews from E4’s ‘Made in Chelsea’  to talk fashion and style.

CASEY: How would you describe your style?

SPENCER: A balanced mix of smart and casual. I like to experiment with my style. You’re my stylist now so you can show me new ideas and brands.

CASEY: What brands are you wearing today?

SPENCER: Ralph Lauren t shirt and shirt, Ralph Lauren jeans, Patrick Mavros belt, Churches shoes.  My watch is Audemars Piguet. The jewellery I’m wearing is a black diamond ring, a chain bracelet from Steven Webster, skull bracelet from Nialaya and a Tiffany little finger ring.

CASEY: Who are your style icons?

SPENCER: Tom Ford, David Gandy.

CASEY: What clothing shops are we most likely to find you in?

SPENCER: I wear a lot of Ralph Lauren, Alexander McQueen is my favourite though. I like to mix high street and designer so I do shop in places like Topman and Zara for basics like t shirts and then mix them with designer pieces.

CASEY: Have you had any past fashion disasters?

SPENCER: I nearly had one when a company offered me a onesie, I escaped that one though! Jamie Laing buying the same jacket as me was a fashion disaster.

CASEY: What do you look for in a womans appearance?

SPENCER: I really like that top you’re wearing and blond hair. On a serious note, I like petite girls and although all my previous girlfriends have been brunettes I might switch to blonds soon.

CASEY: Haha! Thanks Spence, my top is from my clothing brand The Little Wardrobe, www.thelittlewardrobe.co.uk. So, Spencer do you have a dress for success or a dress to impress outfit?

SPENCER: I like to wear suits, so any well cut suit with a near perfect shirt and tie combo is always a winner.

CASEY: What does the future hold for Spencer Matthews?

SPENCER: One can never know what the future holds but perhaps one day I may lose my shadow aka Jamie Laing! Apart from that I hope for prosperity.

– CASEY PAUL

Celebrity Big Brother’s Romeo talks fashion and style

I admit that when I was younger I had a major crush on Romeo. He doesn’t know it but he will now reading this! Little did I know, one day I would be dressing him in a fitting room…

 

CASEY – How would you describe your style?

ROMEO -I don’t really have a style I just wear what I feel comfy in. I dont really like shopping. I just wear what I think suits me. I’m not really fussy about brands, it doesn’t have to be designer as long as it looks good I’ll go with it.

CASEY:  What brands are you wearing today?

ROMEO: Reiss jumper, Money jeans, Adidas trainers, Ted baker coat.

CASEY: What shops are we most likely to find you in if you were out shopping?

ROMEO: None, I don’t like shopping! I do like Reiss and Zara though.

CASEY: Who are your style icons?

ROMEO: I don’t really have any, I just wear what works for me.

CASEY: Do you have a dress to impress or a dress for success outfit?

ROMEO: To be honest I really don’t at the moment.  You are the stylist so you can help me find something.

CASEY: Any fashion disasters you dare to share with us?

ROMEO: I have had quite a few to be fair. That includes the one you bluntly pulled me up on earlier, the outfit that I wore out of the Big Brother house. I agree with you it wasn’t a good look. I have an excuse for that one though as I didn’t have many clothes in the Big Brother house or a stylist, so I just had to work with what I had. Now the heat is on you when you style me, so I should be ok from now on!

CASEY: The first thing I want to do  is get you into some slimmer fitting trousers and out of these baggy things you always wear! As we discussed, that Big Brother outfit you left the house in is never allowed to re appear!… Moving on from Big Brother, what’s next on the agenda for Romeo?

ROMEO: My new years resolution was to take a few more risks and chances. I just want to live life and be happy . Biz, biz, biz!

 

– Casey Paul

 

Understanding the power of past, present and future when speaking

PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE

There is a simple speaking secret which will help anyone to negotiate successfully, resolve conflicts and broach difficult subjects with confidence. It’s as easy as understanding the power of: past, present and future.

THREE TENSES OF SPEAKING

In his brilliant book Winning Arguments the witty writer Jay Heinrich’s summarizes the three tenses of speaking:

Blame

Values

Choice

 

They can be explained as follows:

Past tense- Blame

This is the tense of judgment and justice. The past tense assigns blame or praise of someone or something. Aristotle was wary of this tense because it rarely leads to a payoff and often results in a punishment.

e.g. ‘Did The Artist deserve to win the Oscar for best picture?’

e.g. ‘You borrowed my dress, didn’t you?’

e.g. ‘ Was it Colonel Mustard, in the living room, with the candlestick?’

Present tense- Values

The nature of this tense connects or separates people.  It is used to discover if you and the person you’re talking to agree or disagree on the subject of your conversation. People use the preset to discuss if something is good or bad, right or wrong, safe or unsafe.

e.g. ‘Should we have a referendum on the alternative vote?’

e.g.’ Do core virtues exist?’

e.g. ‘Do you think Simon Cowell is hot?’

Future tense- Choice

Opportunity exists in the future. Therefore this tense is the most constructive. It is used to negotiate, reach consensus and make plans. It is the tense most likely to result in a positive outcome.

e.g. ‘Skiing or beach holiday this August?’

e.g. ‘Will you marry me?’

e.g ‘How can I help you?’

If you are stuck in an argument going nowhere you can try shifting to the future tense of opportunity and choice. You will notice that a change in tense results in a change in the tone of a conversation. This is because the future tense diffuses tension by disentangling you from your present problem and focusing on a potential solution.

So far I have applied tenses to questions but see how they affect answers too, can you notice a difference in tone in the dialogue below? Imagine George and Betsy are going for dinner. Betsy walks down the stairs…

George:  Is that what you’re wearing?

Betsy:  Why did you just say that? You wore that awful Hawaiian shirt yesterday.’ ( past tense- blame)

Betsy: ‘Right, are you saying I should change?’ (present tense- values)

Betsy: ‘ Maybe I’ll try the black dress on instead’ ( future tense- choice)

 

Was George trying to get Betsy to change, or just speaking out loud?

It’s important to set your goal first and keep reminding yourself what you want to achieve throughout the discussion/ speech. Without a clear aim how will you choose the best tense and most advantageous approach? Ask yourself do you want to go over past actions, define the boundaries of common values or make plans for the future.

 

–  Bianca

Made in Chelsea style – Jamie Laing

I admit I have never seen Jamie Laing in the show Made In Chelsea but already had my preconceptions about him before the interview. I was aware that Jamie is heir to the McVitie’s fortune, and assumed that due to this wealth and fortune he would come across flashy when it came to talking shopping. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Jamie is one of the most endearing people I have met, also funny and completely open. I am officially now a fan!

CASEY: How would you describe your style?

JAMIE: My style is quite plain and simple really. I don’t like flashy bling or to stand out too much. I think I have quite a classic style and I like neutral colours.

CASEY: Talk us through the outfit you are wearing now?

JAMIE: My top is from Vince, Trousers Acne. My jewellery is a mixture including Thomas Sabo, Love Poppy, Jessie Western, Theo Fennell.

CASEY: What are your favourite brands / shops?

JAMIE: I don’t really like to shop in Topshop or high street stores like that. I don’t think the quality or fit is that great and I would rather spend a bit more and have it last longer. I love Acne and Vince at the moment. I especially like Acne’s new linen tops. I am really into fresh new brands. My boy Spencer Matthews just copies what everyone else is wearing, I’m not like that, I like wearing different brands. You can show me what’s hot Casey!

CASEY: Do you have any Past fashion disasters that you dare to share with us?

JAMIE: Ohhhhh yes when I was about 13 I went through a skateboarder stage and was wearing funny flared jeans. What was I thinking?

CASEY: What is your dress for success outfit?

JAMIE: Suits don’t match my personality so I would just wear what I feel comfy in. I have Ralph Lauren, Burberry and Tom Ford blazers but I feel better when I am more casual.

CASEY: Who are your style icons?

JAMIE: Tom Ford, James Dean.

CASEY: Spencer Matthews said Tom Ford as well. I guess your going to say that’s him copying again!

JAMIE: See, that’s typical Spencer he just copies and you can tell him I said that. I love him though, he’s my boy.

CASEY: What attracts you to a woman?

JAMIE: I like a woman who dresses well and looks after her appearance. I also like her to show an interest in my appearance. She has to be able to have a laugh

What the colours you wear say about you…The meaning of colour

Have you ever wondered what messages you are portraying through the colours you wear? Here is some interesting information on the meaning of colours.

RED- The colour red activates your pituitary gland (gland at the base of the brain), increasing your heart rate and causing you to breathe more rapidly. This instinctive response makes red seem aggressive, energetic, provocative and attention grabbing. Count on red to evoke a passionate response, albeit not always a favourable one. For example, red can represent danger. Wear a red accent piece when you want to present yourself as bold and dynamic. It can boost your confidence if you are attending a function or interview where you feel unsure of yourself. If a woman wears a red dress it usually is associated with sex appeal.

Wear red to make a statement and grab attention.

GREEN – In general, green implies health, freshness and serenity. However, green’s meaning varies with its many shades. Deeper greens are associated with wealth or prestige, while light greens are calming. Green says growth – balance – harmony.

Wear green when you want to overcome a sense of thwarted ambition.

BLUE- A pure blue is the colour of inspiration, sincerity and spirituality. Blue is often the chosen colour of conservative people. Dark blue represents knowledge, power, integrity, authority and seriousness.

Wear blue to gain trust and portray professionalism.

YELLOW – In every society yellow is associated with the sun. This colour communicates optimism, positivism, light and warmth and symbolizes wisdom. Certain shades seem to motivate and stimulate creative thought and energy. The eyes sees bright yellows before any other colour. People of high intellect favour yellow.

Wear yellow to present a cheery, uplifting effect.

PURPLE – Purple is a colour favoured by creative types. With its blend of passionate red and tranquil blue, it evokes mystery, sophistication, spirituality and royalty. Lavender evokes nostalgia and sentimentality.

Wear purple when you want to encourage fantasy, mystery and imagination.

PINK – Pink’s message varies by intensity. Hot pinks convey energy, youthfulness, fun and excitement. However dusky pinks appear sentimental while lighter pinks are more romantic and feminine.

Wear pink when you want to present yourself as a peaceful, calm person who is not threatening.

ORANGE – Cheerful orange evokes exuberance, fun and vitality. With the drama of red plus the cheer of yellow, orange is viewed as gregarious and often childlike. Research indicates its lighter shades appeal to an upscale market. Wearing orange during times of stress, or shock can help to balance your emotions. It can bring about the willingness to embrace new ideas with enjoyment and a sense of exploration and creative play.

Wear orange to portray an enthusiastic fun loving nature.

BROWN – This earthy colour conveys simplicity, durability and stability. People who prefer brown are often conventional and orderly. The negative meaning of brown can be a repressed personality or a lazy person. Wearing brown clothing can portray no direction or attitude in particular. Brown is a disguise that can be used to effectively hide your true nature. Prior to the introduction of denim, brown was the colour worn by manual workers. Warm browns can be worn to exhibit a ‘down to earth’ feeling.

Wear brown to portray warm heartedness and reliability.

BLACK – Black is serious, bold, powerful and classic. It creates drama and implies sophistication.

Wear black to portray elegance.

WHITE- White implies simplicity, cleanliness and purity. White clothing can point to a higher social status.

Wear white to portray virtue.

 

– CASEY PAUL

Mens Fitness cover model David Peters talks style and fashion

I am lucky enough to say I have known the lovely David Peters for many years.

I recall a conversation I had with a modest teenager who was contemplating taking up modelling part time in order to earn a little extra cash on the side of his professional golf career. This apprehensive youngster, is now all grown up with such a constant flow of modelling work, that he almost managed to convince me he was too busy to do this interview…. Almost!

Introducing Mr David Peters, Mens Fitness Magazine cover model.

Ladies and gentleman, its time to take notes as David talks fashion, flirting, food and fitness and just what it takes to be a cover model…

CASEY: What qualities do you look for in a woman?

DAVID: I’m not going to lie of course initially its based on appearance. Your not going to look across the bar and wonder if a girl has a nice personality. But once you start talking to a girl their personality can make them either more attractive or less attractive.  I go for women with confidence and they have to have a sense of humour because at the end of the day there’s nothing worse than a bore that you can’t have a laugh with.

CASEY: What do you look for in a woman’s appearance?

DAVID: Personally I don’t like a girl who dresses up all the time and looks like she’s tried too hard. I don’t want her to feel she’s always got to impress, I want her to feel comfy in what she’s wearing. For example once I went to the cinema with a girl and it looked like she was dressed up for a night out and I felt uncomfortable. I like a girl with her own style who doesn’t  follow the crowd, she just wears what she wants to wear.

CASEY: You are currently single, so what would be a typical date for you?

DAVID: Dinner of course, I’m a gentleman! Does this mean we can start talking about food now that you mention dinner?

CASEY:  Not just yet. Typical chat up line?

DAVID: I’m not trying to chat you up!

CASEY: It’s a question! What’s your typical chat up line you use on women?

DAVID: Oh! Ha ha. I honestly don’t use them, its not me. I just chat and ask them for their number if I like someone. There are no cheesy chat up lines needed.

CASEY: Time to talk food. What would you eat in a typical day?

DAVID: Bran flakes or porridge for breakfast, then scrambled eggs mid morning or a protein shake. For lunch a salad or sandwich on brown bread, never in a million years would I eat white bread. Protein in the afternoon for example a bowl of tuna with wholegrain pasta.  Then I’d have a workout if I’m free,  and afterwards a low carbohydrate dinner for example chicken and vegetables.

CASEY: Any guilty pleasures?

DAVID: Yeah of course, I give myself treats sometimes. I love chocolate, ice cream and Chinese food. My diet is generally really healthy so I let myself eat food like that occasionally. I just have to pay for it the next day and work harder in the gym.

CASEY: How do you keep your body in that perfect shape? You must surely follow a strict regime?

DAVID: I believe its mainly to do with what you eat. I have a clean diet and I think most people tend to over eat. I look after myself, I don’t smoke and only drink alcohol once a month and drink lots of water.

CASEY: Surely it can’t be that easy, you must spend every day in the gym!

DAVID: No, I go about four to five times a week for about an hour and a half. My workouts are non stop though. Some people say they go to the gym and then there’s people who work hard in the gym. It’s not a social, I go to the gym to train, I don’t mess about and I train intensely for that hour. People don’t know how to train properly. I see guys pick up weights and do a set, put the weight down and rest for five minutes before picking it up again. This isn’t the way to get maximum results. I literally leave ten to twenty seconds between each set so its physically harder. I don’t do much cardiovascular work due to the fact my weight sessions can get me better results and keep me leaner.

CASEY: What was your last modelling job?

DAVID: I was on television for ‘This Morning’ for a style and beauty segment, the last one was frost free fashion. I do quite a bit of modelling for the show, its really good fun.

CASEY: What has been your best modelling job so far?

DAVID: For pure experience and achievement is the Men’s Fitness cover but I also love jobs where I get to travel like the job for a Mizuno running campaign in Switzerland for their Autumn / Winter collection 2011.

CASEY: Lets talk fashion. How would you describe your style?

DAVID: My style is boring. I need another personal shopping trip with you! I could do with some new style advice because I think I play it too safe and don’t experiment much. I do like simplicity though, I don’t feel the need to attract attention from what I wear. You’re most likely to find me in Zara buying simple pieces.

CASEY: Do you have a style icon?

DAVID: I don’t really have one but from time to time I get ideas from different celebrities and admire their confidence to wear some things that they do.

CASEY: Are there any looks that you dislike?

DAVID: I hate trousers tucked into high tops and that whole look. I really don’t like that, it looks too try hard.  If anyone tried to style me like that, I would have none of it. Timberland boots are another thing I have always hated. They are terrible. They are never ever going to be cool.  I don’t like clothes with big labels on either or really colourful clothes with patterns.

CASEY: I had you down as a pretty boy type, would you agree with this?

DAVID: I’m not like that. Joey Essex is a clean cut pretty boy, that type. I’d never class myself as a pretty boy and if I did my dad would give me a slap.

CASEY: Are there any past fashion disasters you dare to share with us?

DAVID: I haven’t had a disaster because I always play it safe. There’s been a few outfits that I wouldn’t wear now but at the time it seemed alright.

CASEY: Do you have a dress for success special outfit?

DAVID: I go to castings plain. You are trying to sell yourself not clothes. If you go to castings you don’t want to dress too fashionably because they may not like that style and this may influence their judgement on you.

CASEY: You have been on the front cover of Mens Fitness Magazine, something most men could only dream of. What would you like to achieve next?

DAVID: I haven’t set new goals yet. My last one I joked about with my mates was to be on the cover of a men’s fitness magazine so now that’s been accomplished I need to set some new ones. For now I’m happy with where I am.

– Casey Paul

Speech writing in style

Preparation is an important key to self-confidence. If you are asked by your boss, friend or Professor to make an impromptu speech and are denied this precious preparation time, presenting can be a nerve-racking experience. An unrehearsed speech has its advantages though: 1) spontaneity 2) that it forces you out of your comfort without giving you the time to think about what could go wrong. All you need in these situations is knowledge of the topic you are speaking on and a failsafe structure to organise your thoughts. The speaking arrangement below has been used for over 2,000 years (you can see the ancient headings in italics) and it’s as failsafe as it gets:

1.       Introduction (Exordium)

*        Traditionally this is where a speaker secures the audiences ‘good will’. This is your opportunity to prepare your listeners to be receptive to your topic.  You can acknowledge the audience’s perspective ‘ we are all here because we love Laura and it’s her birthday…’, ‘ I understand you are unsure and still need convincing about this project…’, ‘ The whole team has high expectations for x product…’

*        Arouse the interest and, if possible, good will of the audience

*        Make clear the central point of your whole speech – just like a prelude in music or a prologue in drama, your introduction prepares the way for what is to follow; set the tone.

2.       Definitions (Partitio I)

*        Clarify any relevant details- why are you delivering the presentation, why has everyone been asked to attend this dinner, does everyone understand what the product does, what the event is for etc

*        Here is where you include any definitions of terms or explanations of ideas.

3.       WHAT you’re going to say (Partitio II)

*        Outline your three main points ( if your speech is longer you can include more main points or expand them and discuss their subpoints)

4.       Main argumentnow say it! (Confirmatio)

*        Deliver on your promises of 1. And 3.

*        Convey a strong argument. Include evidence and relevant expert opinions where  possible

5.       Anticipate criticisms (Refutatio)

*        Address any criticisms you have received or pre-empt those which are likely to be made. Tackle criticisms in order of descending importance so the strongest counter-arguments are not fresh in the audience’s mind when you conclude.

6.       Conclusion (Conclusio)

*        Emphasize the significance of your presentation topic- why was it important? Who does it effect?

*        Reiterate your most important points

*        If possible, ask the audience to perform an action related to the speech: fill out a questionnaire, sign up to the charity marathon, write their suggestions on a small piece of paper. This will make your speech memorable and worth their while.

The effect of the overall speech should always be greater than the sum of its parts. There is no need to artificially separate the individual sections too rigidly in your mind as this can make a presentation disjointed. Be flexible with the ‘rules’ and use your imagination – the best speakers always do!

-Bianca

 

The Mind- Body language Connection

On the homepage, Casey quotes the body-language expert Professor Albert Mehrabian’s famous figures on how impressions are made. That is: 7% verbal, 38% vocal (your volume, speed of speech, pitch- everything that makes up your tone of voice) and 55% non verbal (facial expression and body language).
Something which communicates 55% of meaning between you and others deserves lots of attention, don’t you think? Today I’m writing about the science behind why how you feel has such a deep effect on how you behave- and vice versa. Body language and emotions are inextricably linked. Let’s look at a few everyday examples…
When we see someone speak to us and use open palm hand gestures they are communicating openness, confidence and credibility. This is an evolutionary development because an open palm meant the person was carrying no weapons = they were not a threat. Experiments have shown that adopting open palm gestures like these makes it hard for the speaker to be untruthful- their impulse is to be more open, truthful and responsive to others. The mind follows the body.
Turn your hand over and the reverse is true; you will project authority and dominance. Watch actors, interviewers or politicians- when they need to project strength, a commanding persona or give an order they will use sharp palm-down gestures or point their finger. This goes for handshakes too- next time you see two people shake hands take a closer look- is it equal- palm to palm- or is one of the two people pressing their palm down on the other?
The smile, that small signal with stunning effects, is no exception. Smiling and laughter stimulate your body to release endorphins into your bloodstream which reduce stress, have a healing effect on your body and improve your general wellbeing. So you feel better when you smile and then you smile more. It’s a cycle of positive reinforcement. The healing and mood-boosting effects have been recognised by the medical community and wellness experts for generations. Have you ever heard of laughter Yoga?
If you are having trouble building a rapport or encouraging agreement with someone try nodding. Careful slow nodding means ‘I’m interested’, fast nodding non-verbally says ‘Get on with it!’. If you feel positive and in agreement you will naturally begin to nod slowly and experience more affirmative feelings as a result. Nodding, like smiling is infectious. If you nod your head at someone you get on with chances are they’ll start nodding too. Their nodding will create more positive feelings in them towards you. The cause and effect cycle is at work again!
21st century people travel more than ever before so it is important to be aware of cultural differences: take the ‘thumbs up’ gesture. In Western countries it signifies approval but… it means the number ‘one’ in Italy, ‘five’ in Japan and is very insulting in Greece! People have habits too- crossing arms doesn’t always mean ‘I’m feeling defensive’, it might mean ‘ I’m comfortable’ or ‘ I’m cold.’ People naturally interpret body language signals all day every day without realising.
What are you communicating today?
-Bianca